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To Love and Appreciate Yourself

Love  – “The biggest struggle in life is the struggle to know, embrace, and accept ourselves, with all of our faults and imperfections. Many of us were raised by parents who were themselves victims – who were not taught to see their own worth, or who were not really seen by their own parents. Our grandparents generation faced massive trauma and upheaval due to the Second World War and the Great Depression. The focus was on survival and minimizing the damage, rather than on love, appreciation and intimacy. Individuals and families today face the challenges of long commutes, longer working hours, and global economic uncertainty. These stresses can beat us down, or make us build walls around ourselves that are so dense that even our dearest friends, partners, spouses and children can’t get in. Yet, there is another way.”

Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise so I want to change myself. ~ Rumi

When we have the courage to let the walls down – to know and embrace ourselves, despite our human failings, we also open the door to connecting in a more caring, empathic, intimate way with the ones we love and with all living beings.

Our brains are wired for survival, but also for empathy. We have mirror neurons that fire when we see other people’s pain. Let us learn to love ourselves so we can be more open and compassionate to others, and so we can take down the walls that limit who we can be and what we can contribute.

Deepak Chopra – ‘Timeless You’

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The quotes below are intended as inspiration for your inward journey. Become more mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and behavior. Also know your vulnerabilities as well as your strengths and achievements. And learn to love yourself for both. I have included categories that define some different facets of self love, including awareness, acceptance and growth. …….. Psychology Today

Some of the best quotes on Self Love
  1. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
    – Buddha
  2. “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. ”
    – M. Scott Peck
  3. “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
    – Mark Twain
  4. “Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”
    – Harvey Fierstein
  5. “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”
    – Lucille Ball
  6. “Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.”
    – Eleanor Roosevelt
  7. “If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”
    – Fred Rogers
  8. “Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”
    – Maxwell Maltz
  9. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  10. “When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”
    – Jean Shinoda Bolen
  11. “Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.”
    – Parker Palmer
  12. “When you adopt the viewpoint that there is nothing that exists that is not part of you, that there is no one who exists who is not part of you, that any judgment you make is self-judgment, that any criticism you level is self-criticism, you will wisely extend to yourself an unconditional love that will be the light of the world.”
    – Harry Palmer
  13. “Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?”
    – Brigham Young
  14. “To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.”
    – Denis Waitley
  15. “A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.”
    – Andrew Matthews
  16. “Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.”
    – Dan Coppersmith
  17. “People may flatter themselves just as much by thinking that their faults are always present to other people’s minds, as if they believe that the world is always contemplating their individual charms and virtues.”
    – Elizabeth Gaskell
  18. “Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”
    – Stacey Charter
  19. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
    – Howard Washington Thurman
  20. “Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”
    – Malcolm S. Forbes
  21. “Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  22. “Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.”
    – Helen Keller
  23. “You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
    – Louise L. Hay
  24. “To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance”
    – Oscar Wilde
  25. “Be faithful to that which exists within yourself.”
    – André Gide
  26. “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.” – William James


    Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.~ Rumi 


  1.   “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

  2. “You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”
    – Diane Von Furstenberg
  3. “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
    – Carl Gustav Jung
  4. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
    – Eleanor Roosevelt
  5. “The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.”
    – Robert Hand
  6. “I think everybody’s weird. We should all celebrate our individuality and not be embarrassed or ashamed of it.”
    – Johnny Depp
  7. “You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.”
    – Yogi Bhajan
  8. “It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.”
    – W.C. Fields
  9. “There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.”
    – Brian Andreas
  10. “Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
    – Benjamin Spock
  11. “Because: one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others.And one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval.And also  if one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
    – Lao-Tzu
  12. “People who want the most approval get the least and the people who need approval the least get the most.”
    – Wayne Dyer
  13. “There is nothing noble about being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self.”
    – Hindu Proverb
  14. “I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent. They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.”
    – Kristen Neff
  15. “Your problem is you’re… too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”
    – Ram Dass
  16. “The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you but yourself.”
    – Rita Mae Brown
  17. “She lacks confidence, she craves admiration insatiably. Lives on the reflections of herself in the eyes of others. Does not dare to be herself.”
    – Anais Nin
  18. “People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”
    – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross
  19. “If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.”
    – Barbara De Angelis
  20. “Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.”
    – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  21. “It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.”
    – Sidney J. Harris
  22. “There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
    – Anaïs Nin
  23. “It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.”
    – Sally Field
  24. “When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits – anything that kept me small.  My judgement called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.”
    – Kim McMillen
  25. “The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”
    – Bob Moawad
  26. “Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world making the most of one’s best.”
    – Harry Emerson Fosdick
  27. “It is never too late to be what you might have been.”
    – George Eliot


Gain a True Sense of Self

Say goodbye to codependency. Self-love pushes you to take care of your own needs. You’ll learn to give to yourself, and in doing so, you will develop into the person you strive to be. And as a result, you will celebrate the beauty and freedom of being true to you. Therefore you’ll gain a solidified sense of who you truly are. Self-love helps you ground into your true self.

Set Loving Boundaries

As your self love expands so does your ability to identify what is and is not good for you. Hence, the more you love yourself, the less you’ll tolerate being treated like crap. Consequently you will gain the clarity you need to understand what you will and will not accept in your life.

Find Your Own Happy

Especially relevant is to stop seeking happiness outside of you. You won’t find it. But you will experience temporary happy moments, however you won’t find long-lasting happiness. Also self-love helps you get your groove back. It’s simple, really. The more love you show yourself, the better you will feel. Most of all the better you feel, the happier you become. Furthermore, you are in charge of your happiness, and self-love is the key to finding it.

Also Self-love is not selfish. Because Self-love is about connecting to your innermost needs and celebrating the freedom of being you. Additionally, it is about honoring who you really are within whilst dropping your destructive patterns.

Finally loving yourself is magical. It is a divine relationship that will help you radically improve every aspect of your life. So drop the guilt and embrace having a deep, loving relationship with YOU