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Dating on a Budget

Dating on a Burget cover (2)Dating on a Budget – Living and Loving on a Shoestring!

A humorous yet informative guide to those readying themselves for a journey into the world of dating. It also provides thought provoking ideas for couples looking to bring fun and frivolity back into their relationships.

There are practical solutions, numerous cost saving measures and handy tips for those on a limited budget. A lighthearted yet sincere look into world of dating.

Author Michael E Thornley supports many of the suggestions with his whimsical quips and forthright encouragement (and sometimes discouragement should the situation require it. e.g. Like “run for the hills “ 🙂

We are sure you will enjoy this guide and Happy Dating!

Here is an excerpt from the book………

First Date tips

  • Be polite, courteous and thoughtful.
    (Say your pleases and thank you’s and put that cell phone away!)

  • Do NOT talk too much about your ex’s
    (unless you want to get rid of your date as soon as you have had a feed, then by all means go for it! Ex away!)

  • A man should be a gentleman…. a lady a lady. (Well for the first 15 minutes at least whilst you size each other up.)

  • Listen carefully to what the other is saying and even more importantly to what they are NOT saying.
    ( If they are talking with their back to you or ogling the wait staff, then I think you should order the cheapest thing on the menu if you are paying or the dearest if you are not)

  • Smile and look the other person in the eyes when you speak to them
    ( But don’t smile if they are telling you a sad story. And please don’t give that nervous cheezy grin you have or they will be thinking like… ‘Weird’!…. Either way make sure you clean your teeth before hand to remove any evidence of the days snacks that only now become apparent when you smile)

  • Learn their name quickly!
    ( don’t get the previous date nor the one following this one confused with the one siting opposite you now! This is MOST important! You know the hesitation when you go ummm.. Sally?…Jessy?…Raphael?)

  • Laugh sincerely even if the joke is lame.
    ( But don’t snort or laugh so loud causing the drink waiter to drop their tray of glasses in fright!)

  • If fine dining, ensure you place the napkin on your lap, if indeed the waiter has not officiated in that duty when you first sit down.
    ( remember the napkin goes on your lap NOT tucked into the top of your open shirt or blouse. AND if you insist on doing this then be careful not to mistake the linen table cloth for a napkin, otherwise ….well you know…..first impressions and all that with the food and drinks now on the floor with silence throughout the dining room.)”

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Michael E Thornley
Author & Lifestyle Entrepreneur
www.michaelthornley.org

 

Synchronicity – signs, signs, everywhere are signs

DalaiLama synchronicity  Synchronicity – ” the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection.”  ….or do they?

Seeing ‘signs’ or recognising  interrelated occurrences happens to all of us.  I do not think that anyone could deny this has not happened at least once in their lives. And for many of us it has occurred on numerous occasions.

So why does it happen? Well there any many reasons, theories and belief systems that offer an explanation. Yet regardless of your own personal view on this, I am sure that we all agree that it can and does happen.

Research has confirmed Synchronicity?

It happens to everyone sooner or later: A certain number will just pop up wherever you go; an old friend you haven’t seen in 20 years since high school contacts you  the very  same day you’re looking at their picture in a school yearbook; you’re singing a song and you turn on the radio and there is that  same song is playing….  the list is endless.

Many simply say “oh it is just a co-incidence’. Well let me ask you ‘How many co-incidences are happening in your life?’ Can it ALL be a co-incidence?

Yet others might think of it in terms of the odds. If there is a one-in-a-million chance of that particular coincidence happening, why make such a big deal of it? For example, somebody has to win the lottery! I accept that this viewpoint has a certain validity as synchronicity is part and parcel of physical laws. It doesn’t defy the natural order of events…. it simply raises more questions than can easily be answered by a cause-and-effect equation.

So when synchronicity happens, many people overlook it or call it something else. They might say, “I got lucky,”  or “It came out of the blue.”. Then when asked if they have experienced synchronicity, they can’t remember any. All those incidents are filed away in their sub-conscious, but under the category of luck.

” We experience synchronicity most often when we’re open and aware, which in turn is affected by the outer conditions in which we find ourselves and the inner conditions in which we put ourselves. ”

  • Special circumstances such as births, deaths, and times of upheaval are outer conditions that push us toward openness because, as the ground shifts beneath our feet, we feel more vulnerable.
  • Mundane circumstances of daily life can be rich with synchronicity if we have the right inner conditions—if we make ourselves more open to the world through personal awareness and inner work.

 

Strings of Synchronicities

When we are beginning a relationship for example, synchronicity seems to appear all over the place. We feel light-headed, happy, open; the world is smiling back at us, giving the relationship a sense of destiny and ‘producing signs.

As the song goes ‘Signs, signs everywhere a sign” and for me I place allot of importance on this. I see the Universe is guiding me and confirming that I am on the right path. Others may call it God, spirit or some other entity or ideal. Yet it all comes down to ‘It actually happens’.

The sceptics may still call it a coincidence, yet by calling it something they are acknowledging it is happening 🙂 I rest my case 😉

Michael E Thornley
Author and Lifestyle Entrepreneur
www.michaelthornley.org

Social Media – a great way to make new friends

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Over the years Social Media has been blamed for many things such as feeding peoples addictive behaviour; creating face to face communication breakdown; the breaking up of marriages etc. It is not Social Media that is to blame but the choices you as an individual make. In most cases it is used as an excuse for all these social issues.

However I do acknowledge that most of us including myself check our Facebook, Twitter, Instagram accounts daily. Yet it is a means of keeping in touch with our family and friends and what is happening in the world. We used to spend hours watching TV, reading newspapers, writing letters or talking on the phone. Now we have instant access 24/7 the world over and that is an incredible advancement in communication…. we simply need to be sensible in how we utilise this service.

I personally have found Social media to be a godsend at times in my life when I have experienced periods of loneliness or in times of stress and hardship. In using Facebook as an example, I have found like-minded and empathetic people around the world who have been ‘on-line’ friends for years. And in my opinion they are true friends whether you have had the pleasure to meet them face to face or not.

Social media allows you to share your experiences and adventures and our photographs of family and friends and our interaction with others will tell you allot about that particular person. The old adage that a picture is worth a thousand words runs true. In the majority of cases I can judge the calibre’ of the person by the  subject matter of their photographs along with the types of  memes (pictures with messages written on them) and the various posts that they share.

And I have confirmed my ‘intuition’ by meeting many of my Facebook friends from all over the world and as many of you know, I am currently meeting and staying with some of these  ‘Facebook’ friends for the very first time. They have entrusted their own instinct and intuition from having  known me on-line for many years………. And I am most humbled and blessed for their trust in me. And so I have now enhanced many of these friendships with people that I would most likely never have met had it not been for Social media.

Of course to clarify, many ‘friends’ on Social Media are just acquaintances so to speak. However my point is that Social Media can indeed be a positive experience provided you are sensible and practical in it’s application and inclusion in your daily routine.

Michael E Thornley
Author and Lifestyle Entrepreneur

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Think Critically. Wake up. Keep your head on a swivel.

Think Critically. Wake up. Keep your head on a swivel.

Today’s Blog post is from one of my coaches and mentors J T DeBolt. 

Michael E Thornley
Author, Lifestyle Entrepreneur &
World Traveller

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My boss tried to kill me (and what I did to him next)

True story: Back in 2007, I was flying a routine logistics mission with my commanding officer who, like me, was a combat-decorated and very seasoned aviator.

The mission was simple: fly from sunny San Diego to Fresno, California.

Easy day.

Except…

When we took off out of San Diego, it was the typical postcard weather: sunny, light breeze off the ocean, gorgeous.

When we approached Fresno an hour later…dense fog. For miles. And it was our turn to land.

My commanding officer (“Skipper” as we called him) was flying the approach while I sat in the right seat and backed him up by placing my hands gently on the controls.

As we descended, we plunged straight into the dense fog and entered the disorienting world of instrument flight; the Skipper was laser focused on the instruments as I kept a watchful eye out the window for the moment we broke through the fog.

And then, it happened. The most terrifying moment of my entire flight career.

I felt the Skipper pull a little too much power, and the aircraft sank at an alarming rate of decent. As we fell out of the fog, my heart slammed to a stop as I looked up to see…a tree.

Instinctively, I yelled, “WAVE OFF!” and shoved the throttles full forward.

Skipper pulled back on the controls and the airplane roared to the sky…missing the ground by mere feet.

We came within a fraction of a second of slamming into the ground, and leaving behind widows, orphans and a smoking hole in the ground.

There was no time to discuss, not time to negotiate and no time to consider options. We survived a near catastrophe because of a very important behavior: I questioned my boss’s authority.

And yes, he openly encouraged that. That’s what exceptional Leaders do.

Of course, there’s a “right” way and a host of ineffective ways to do it. And I discuss this in-depth on today’s episode of The High-Altitude Mentorship Show™ podcast:


http://jtdebolt.com/entrepreneurship/why-you-should-question-authority/

Look, this is an important trait for High-Performers, especially in today’s “sheeple” society, where most people blindly follow celebrities, politicians and self-appointed “experts”.

Just because the “gurus” and “thought leaders” are pumping others full of sentiment and “follow your bliss” propaganda doesn’t mean you have eat what they’re shoveling.

Think critically.
Wake up.
Keep your head on a swivel.
And question these “experts” always.

Including (and especially) me.

It may never come down to a life-and-death decision, but questioning authority will at the very least keep you from falling asleep at the wheel, blindly following flimsy rhetoric and prevent you from creating a “smoking hole” in the ground of your business, career or life.

You have my permission to question authority (not that you needed it). Now we’ll see what you do with it.

Fly High. Fly Fast. Fly Far.

JT

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Sort through the Chickens to find the Eagles!

eagle-flying sort-through-chickens-fly-with-eagles” Sort through the Chickens to find the Eagles! Do you want to scratch around like chickens or soar with the Eagles?”

I love this analogy and this is true in life as in business. Many are simply happy and content with living their same old same old routine and that is fine. Whilst others wish to experience more in life and push out and motivate themselves to improve their lives…. that is fine too.

However, we will find that some of these chickens are envious of the eagles and so they mock the young eaglets as they try to fly. Yet when the Eagles do finally fly, the chickens become jealous of the freedom that the eagles have achieved in soaring high.

We all need to reassess our life’s plan at time. So ask yourself this question “am I happy with where my life is heading to or indeed where I have arrived at this particular moment in time? If so great 🙂 ……..  If not then ask yourself this “‘ What can I DO to make the necessary changes to get back on my life’s pathway. Remember, this is YOUR pathway.

To achieve this journey you need to remove those negative jealous chickens and surround yourself with other eaglets and eagles. Follow and learn from those that have achieved the life that you wish to have. Make a commitment to yourself to ‘Achieve Your Dreams’. There are very few things in life that are impossible to achieve. I agree that it is unlikely that I will ever be President of the United States or the Pope. However with all due respect to those that are elected to these most important public offices, I have no desire to be either of these roles, even if I could. This is NOT my life plan. But it is theirs and I admire and respect those that achieve their ultimate goal.

I have worked hard and long to get the lifestyle I wish. Yes I have made a great many sacrifices in both time and money. This is all part of the adventure! Yet with receiving some support along the way from those that at least believed in me, even if they do not necessarily agree with my method of achieving my lifestyle,  I am now well on my way to achieving my dreams!

YOU can do it too. Look around you. Who or what is not serving you and hindering you. If it is a thought in your own mind that is stopping you from achieving your goals, then work through it! Push out of your comfort zone, push away those that are planting these negative seeds and take a chance! If you don’t take chances in life then you will never achieve your full potential. Take a small step now…. then another and you will see that it is not that bad afterall. Yes it can be a daunting  but ‘just do it!.

Michael E Thornley
Author and Entrepreneur

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Have you heard of Fiverr ?

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There is nothing quite like Fiverr.com when it comes to outsourcing for your business. In case you’ve been living under a rock for the past 2 years, Fiverr.com is a website that is dedicated to US$5 jobs! People will do all sorts of different things for US$5, from making videos, promoting your website, or even collecting & sending you sea shells from their local beach lol.

You’d be surprised how much you can outsource on Fiverr for a measly US$5. If you’re already familiar with Fiverr.com then you know exactly what I’m talking about.

I have utilised the services of Fiverr on a number of occasions and found those that I have  dealt with efficient and trustworthy. Besides, the Fiverr system does not pay them unless you are happy with their service.

However, it also gave me an idea that some of you out there are looking for additional work so why not list your services on there! People are looking for many different types of services so ask yourself….. what are you best at? And US$5-00 is only a starting point. You must offer a basic service for that amount but then you can promote the other services that you do for a higher cost.

Now i want you to know that whilst I am an Entrepreneur, I am simply sharing this with you as my trusted subscribers. I do NOT receive any form of financial benefit form Fiverr.com for promoting them .

Just some FREE & FRIENDLY advice 🙂
Michael E. Thornley
Writer & Entrepreneur

AND I will also OFFER a FREE Report because I am such a nice person! 🙂

The 10 Questions You Absolutely Must Ask Before Choosing a Home-Based Business

Felt From the Heart

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” Why do we close our eyes when we pray, cry, kiss, dream? Because the most beautiful things in life are not seen but felt only by the heart. “

As I have grown that little bit older AND been placed in some rather humbling situations, I know this to be true my friends.

A prayer is an inner most expression of what we are feeling in our hearts…. a dream is the working of our soul, correlating these feelings so that we might understand them in context whilst our physical body is at rest.

Most of the time though, we simply wish to savour the moment; appreciate; delight in and enjoy to the full these magnificent experiences. They are all heartfelt moments … and whilst a tear can be shed in joy, it may too be released in sorrow. So it is then that we must close our eyes in the feint hope that this moment, this pain we are feeling, is not real and that somehow it might disappear, thus protecting our delicate hearts…..

Yet, in my humble opinion and experience, to feel the sensation of a loving kiss, an exchange of charged energy on copious levels, is one that truly represents that which is felt directly from ones heart.

Blessings my friends……
Michael Ellis Thornley
Writer and Entrepreneur

That feeling you get when a cop starts to follow you

Our guest Blogger today is J T DeBolt.
I am sharing an Email he sent me which is relevant to us all 🙂

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Creator of the Wealth Flow Formula
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“Last summer on a family road trip I saw a guy pulled over on the side of the road in a late model Hyundai. It was the typical scene:

The cop, with his lights flashing and hand on holster, was leaning on the roof of the car as the poor guy fumbled for his driver’s license and whatever else the cop asked him for.

The moment barely registered in my sleepy mind before I noticed that a different cop was now following me. I had been getting drowsy from a long drive and was no doubt weaving like a guy with nine beers in him.

What happened next is probably something you’ve experienced once or twice in your life.

Instantly wide awake, I scanned my instruments and saw that my speed was about two ticks over the speed limit; well within legal range. I felt my foot lighten and the engine give in just a bit.

My thoughts went from “License is up to date, registration is good, insurance is paid in full…” to “What’s to worry about? to “WHAT’S THE DEAL?!?!”

Then came the lights.. Not the cop’s headlights, or the flashing red and blue overheads… but all of them.

Instantly my brain lit up and flooded my bloodstream with adrenaline…just as the cop pulled away and raced off to whatever crisis she’d been dispatched to.

Damn…that was close. And I was left feeling a mixture of relief, annoyance and exhaustion as my adrenaline dissipated. (And maybe a hint of “amused”…)

Ever experienced that?

Almost everyone has, and not just while sitting behind the wheel of an automobile.

Sometimes, we see evidence of someone going through a tough time; could be a broken relationship, a career rut, a financial flatline or a stagnating business. We slow down and observe from the relative safety of our own “driver’s seat”…until the cop pulls in behind us.

We look down at our metaphorical speedometer and see that we’ve been racing along mindlessly and fallen behind on our goals.

We realize our driver’s license of life has expired due to our own negligence and inattentiveness.

And due to our focus on the “small” stuff (bills, nagging neighbors, bickering family members, increasing waistlines…) we start to drift out of the lane that is supposed to take us to our dream, to our mission.

We are literally asleep at the wheel of our business and life. And now that cop called REALITY is pulling us over. Or worse; we never wake up, and drive off into the oblivion of a mediocre life.

You can either fight through it on your own, mask the sleepiness with the “caffeine” of another escapism TV program or social media binge…

…Or you can wake up. For good!”

Fly High. Fly Fast. Fly Far.

J.T. DeBolt
https://attendee.gotowebinar.com/register/3422347961190940929

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Growth Mindset or Closed Mindset

Our guest blogger today is Yuri Elhaim. I recently received an Email from him and I would like to  share it with you here because it not only applies to a business mindset, but also to the potential outcome of one’s personal life.

Ask yourself…. Do you have a ‘growth mindset’ or a ‘closed mindset’?
How you interpret challenges, setbacks, and criticism is your choice. You can interpret them in a fixed mindset as signs that your fixed talents or abilities are lacking. Or you can interpret them in a growth mindset as signs that you need to ramp up your strategies and effort, stretch yourself, and expand your abilities. It’s up to you.

Michael Ellis Thornley
Creator of the Wealth Flow Formula
‘Aspire to Inspire before you Expire’

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Here’s the deal:  Your business (and your personal life) is exactly where it is based on one thing and one thing only…

Your thoughts.

Without going into a big metaphysical lesson here, let me just
say that the biggest difference between those who achieve
greatness vs. those that settle for mediocrity is little more
than mindset.

You get exactly what you think about most of the time.

And so I challenge you to start thinking bigger because amazing
things can happen when you do.

The two forces that make anything “real” are desire and belief.

By focusing on what you want, instead of what currently is…

And actually believing you can have it, you’ll be amazed at what
happens. 🙂

Case in point:

‘Yesterday, my brother (who runs operations for us), told me that
one of the largest food distributors in Canada is excited to
produce and distribute our All-Day Energy Bars, which would save
us 50% off our current cost and sell nearly 10,000x as many!

They even said our bars are the BEST bars they’ve ever tasted and
likely the healthiest as well (at 14g of protein and 16g of fiber
with little to no sugar).

So we’re in the process of something HUGE.

And, out of the blue, 2 BIG (and separate) opportunities for
monster media buyers to make a ton of sales for 2 of our other
products fell into my lap just a few weeks ago’.

Big things are happening and I don’t say this to boast but to
illustrate what’s possible when you think big.

How did this all come about?…………. I honestly don’t know.

But for months I’ve been telling myself and visualizing that “I
expect and receive miracles in my life every day”…And that…“I always attract the right people to help my business grow.” (or attract positive people into your life if you believe in what you ask for!)

Sometimes all we need to focus on is the WHAT.

  • Let the HOW take care of itself………you have the gift to create magic
    out of thin air. And your mind is where it all starts.
  • Don’t be limited by those around you.
  • Break through the status quo and challenge yourself to think and
    believe bigger.
  • Go after what you want because if you can think it and believe,
    you WILL achieve. It’s law!

Yuri Elkaim
….. is a NYT bestselling author and CEO of a highly respected 7-figure online health business, which has transformed the lives of more than 500k people over the past 7 years.

When Opportunity Knocks- ANSWER THE DOOR!

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Too often, the opportunity knocks, but by the time you push back the chain, push back the bolt, unhook the two locks and shut off the burglar alarm, it’s too late.” Rita Coolidge

When opportunity knocks, open the door and welcome it in because it may not knock a second time.
This is so true in life whether it be with a Business or a Personal Relationship.

Sometimes opportunity knocks, but most of the time it sneaks up and then quietly steals away”…Doug Larson

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Many often take far too long to way up the pros and cons of an opportunity and lose out completely on that particular opportunity. Conversely, others rush on in before giving the opportunity some sensible consideration. It is actually a very fine balance between the two and one that I have more often than not, tipped the wrong way.

But you know, overall I would say that I have enjoyed the journey and whilst I have been burnt, bitten,stung and hung, drawn and quartered at times 😉 I have NO REGRETS!
Of course I have experienced HUGE learning curves but never regrets!

I would rather have had the experience in order to learn and grow from…. rather than to sit back in a shell and wonder ‘what if’.

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The main issue with making decisions about ‘opportunities’ is the constant battle between the heart and the head. It is an age old battle that our inner self struggles with and one that causes endless debate amongst us.

However a third modifying influence joins the furore as referee between so called logic of the brain and the emotional decision of the heart…… That is what we call the ‘gut feeling’ or Soul. I have found that if I truly listen to my Soul then I will make the right decision. It may be wrong timing in relation to your current situation however reach out NOW and at the very least, hold onto the possibility rather than miss out forever!!

Michael Ellis Thornley
Creator of the Wealth Flow Formula
‘Aspire to Inspire before you Expire’

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